If you ever asked out your crush and got a "maybe", "we'll see" or "I don't know" from them it can be extremely frustrating to figure out what they mean. Luckily in this video, I break down some of the reasons behind their words and what you can do to turn a maybe into a "yes".
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Heya Playa have you ever asked someone out only to get a response from them saying that they needed some time to figure it out? Well, that's the question that's, when she asked me when he said, could you do a video on what it means if your crush says she needs to figure some things out when you ask her out, don't worry, sketchy, a lot of people run into this issue, but I have a solution that I think can work for you for those of you that are new here.
My name is Josh.
And every single Monday through Friday I, make videos, sharing tips ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self.
And today we're gonna talk about this kind of delayed response from the person that you like telling you something like I'm, not really sure I need time to figure it out I'll get back to you getting a maybe from someone after you've asked them out can be a somewhat unsettling feeling.
You don't really know if they're leaning more towards yes or leaning more towards no now there's a lot of different potential reasons.
Why person might have said, maybe maybe they're not allowed to start dating yet maybe they're, not sure if they want to date at this age in this grade, maybe they're, not sure how they feel about you it's hard to pinpoint the exact reason why without digging more into the question.
So I think, that's, really what you have to focus on doing let's also, not rule out the possibility that maybe the answer they gave you was because they didn't know how to say, no without looking like a jerk.
Sometimes people will do this they'll tell you I'm, not really sure simply because they feel bad telling you, no, they know it might hurt your feelings.
So they're kind of taking the easier road out.
And if their answer really is no, what did you want to come to that conclusion as fast as you can to avoid wasting any further time? Now you might be thinking how how do we get them to go further into their answer? So I can really know what they're feeling well, the best way to do that is to do what most people usually don't.
What most people tend to do when they ask out their crush and their crush gives them an answer like I, don't know, I just need some time to figure it out.
They tend to just back away and wait I totally see how this makes sense.
They said, they need some time.
So you're, just gonna quietly, wait in the background and not really bother them or interact with them.
And let them try to think it through so that they can come to you with their answer.
However, that's, just not how things really work out what ends up happening is your crush sees that you're no longer pursuing them you're, no longer trying to go out with them.
And of course, it becomes easier and easier for them to push it to the back of their mind and to focus on other things, what I'm not advocating for is to be pushy.
And being pushy is simply constantly asking them over and over to go out.
And what do they want to do? And how do they feel about you and waiting and trying your best to get that answer from them? Oh, my god, it's gonna drive them crazy.
What I am advocating for is to continue to show your crush that you like them, keep flirting with them, keep joking with them and every so often invite them to do something new with you I've talked in the past about how you should never phrased asking someone out in the simple terms of will you go out with me, yes, or no should always tie it to something do you want to go for a walk in the park.
Do you want to hang out after school? Do you want to go watch a movie asking them to do something specific is way more effective.
So in this case, if you ask them to let's say, hang out with you after school, and they give you an answer like I, don't know, I'm, not sure I'll have to get back to you that's, ok, continue to talk to them show them that you are still interested in them and just ask them to do something else.
Another time a maybe can easily turn into a yes or a No.
But it all depends on how much emphasis and work.
You put into that equation, it can also be easy to feel rejected.
If someone gives you an answer like I'm busy or I can't, make it just hearing.
Those words makes it seem like they just don't want to spend the time with you, but that isn't always the case just because a person's busy doesn't mean that they don't like you.
Sometimes people have things to do.
They have after-school activities.
They have a lot of homework.
They have tests to study for they want hang out with their friends, there's, a million things going on in everyone's lives and all we're trying to do is fit everything together.
So let's say, for example, you ask your crush to hang out after school, and they tell you I, don't really know if I can I might have practiced I might have a lot of homework I might be busy.
Try to ask for something smaller ask him to do something like, hey, that's cool.
How about we hang on one day during lunch? If they can't do that? How about we meet up in the hallway if they can't do that? How about we message each other on snapchat, try to find a way for the two of you to still communicate, but the double-edged sword here is to also be aware, try to really recognize that if maybe when they say I, don't know or I need some time they genuinely just don't want to do it.
But they don't want to look like a bad person and saying that it's not an easy thing to outright figure out.
But as you ask them for smaller and smaller things, you'll start to see where they're really coming from and how they really feel.
What do you think though have you ever asked your crush to hang out only to get a maybe answer from them, leave a comments down below and we'll talk about it.
If you have a situation that you don't really feel too comfortable putting out there in the open, you can always shoot me a DM over on snapchat or Instagram.
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Can this is not the end for you.
If you really want to learn how to work through these types of situations, definitely check out, the videos, I have listed over there.
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Remember learning is a gradual process.
So you need to keep learning as much as you can to really start to see what clicks and what you could figure out.
Thank you guys so much for watching I'll catch you next time as always love and peace.
People say "Maybe" when they don't have the guts to say "No". So next time you hear someone tell you "maybe", just smile politely, and say "ok".How do you respond to someone wanting to hang out? ›
- Give short explanations for why you're not free. ...
- Be honest about your need for time alone. ...
- Don't leave your friend hanging. ...
- Try setting a recurring time to meet. ...
- Be prepared to uphold your boundaries. ...
- Don't take responsibility for others' feelings.
If you're not definitely sure that something is a yes or a no, you can say maybe. Do you want to go to the dance with me? Maybe. It's usually the same as answering a question with possibly or perhaps.Does a maybe mean no to a date? ›
When she says “maybe” or “we'll see,” it's not a hard “no” in this case. She hasn't rejected you outright, which is what most women would do if they don't see you as a potential romantic partner. So her “maybe” is pretty good news. And the reason she might have said it may vary.How do you respond to a flirty maybe? ›
- "Thanks so much. ...
- "You just made me smile."
- "I think you're really attractive too." ...
- "Thanks so much - I love how (insert another personality trait) you are too."
- "Thanks - you made my day."
- "Well thanks! ...
- "I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!"
"Maybe" means "no." It's a "no" that might possibly change to a "yes" in the future, but right now it's "no." "I would love to, but..." means "no." "Well, you see, I don't really think..." means "no." "I'm not ready for that" means "no."Does hanging out mean dating? ›
Hanging out is a nebulous term covering a casual relationship that has risen to popularity recently and is often used as a catch-all tag phrase. Whereas dating implies a deeper level of commitment by both parties, the implication that the goal is actually a relationship. Let's understand the key differences.What does hang out mean to a guy? ›
Hanging out, technically, means literally nothing more than passing time with another human. But for some, “hanging out” carries a bit more weight — and, just like “dating,” one person's hang out meaning could be very different from another's.How do you reject hanging out with a guy? ›
"Thanks for thinking of me. Unfortunately, I'm not feeling up for it, but I would love to see you next week instead.” You don't always have to give a concrete reason why you're saying no to hanging out—especially if there isn't one.Why is he asking to hang out? ›
He wants to spend time with you and see if you have a connection. When a guy says he wants to hang out, it usually means that he wants to get to know you better and see if there is a potential connection. This could be an indication that he is interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
It means he wants to spend some time with you. doesn't have to be in a sexual or romantic way as plenty of people seem to be saying (who seem to mostly be women?). we are simple, he probably thinks your genuinely pretty cool and wants to be friends.Is it OK for a girl to ask a guy to hang out? ›
Don't be afraid to ask a guy to hang out. He'll see it as refreshing that he didn't have to ask you and he'll know that you're confident. Remember to be a good listener.Is maybe a direct answer? ›
It depends on the question. Sometimes “maybe” is the only correct answer to a question. When you ask a question to someone who is informed and s/he replies “maybe,” that could be valuable information.Is maybe later a no? ›
If it's a personal question then it means no. The answer may change to a yes in the future but right now it's a no.What is a maybe date? ›
For people who enjoy each other's friendship, maybe-dates give them a safe space to explore what dating might be like without risking the friendship. Official dates can also feel a little stiff and formal if you're not used to them, so easing in with maybe-dates until you figure out the lay of the land can be helpful.How to make a girl say yes? ›
- Use a personal note. ...
- Be up front with your request. ...
- Use guilt to your advantage. ...
- Use the right words. ...
- Focus on what the other person will gain. ...
- Remind the person he or she can always say no. ...
- Appropriate physical touch may help.
The Maybe type encapsulates an optional value. A value of type Maybe a either contains a value of type a (represented as Just a), or it is empty (represented as Nothing). Using Maybe is a good way to deal with errors or exceptional cases without resorting to drastic measures such as error.Why do people use maybe? ›
You use maybe to express uncertainty, for example when you do not know that something is definitely true, or when you are mentioning something that may possibly happen in the future in the way you describe.What does just maybe mean? ›
: possibly but not certainly : perhaps. ◊ Maybe is a more informal word than perhaps.What is the closest meaning of maybe? ›
- Touch your face and hair when you're talking to them.
- Touch them, casually, on the arm or knee when you're talking to them.
- Laugh at their jokes.
- Touch their arm or knee when you laugh at their jokes.
- Morning! ...
- You were in my dreams last night. ...
- My day is more fun when you're in it.
- You're already thinking about me—I can feel it.
- I can't focus today. ...
- Can't wait to feel your arms around me again.
- My love language is physical touch. ...
- You're my dream guy.
Playfully teasing him will make him blush a little from embarrassment. Just don't say anything that's too mean, or else you'll hurt his feelings. Sending flirty, playful messages is a great way to turn him on and make him blush.What maybe means from a guy? ›
I think it is similar to when you invite someone to an event and they say “I'll try to be there”. They could also say “maybe”. Both cases mean they are really saying no, and just don't want to tell you the truth. And I think this applies to both men and women.Why do people say maybe when they mean no? ›
For the person saying “Maybe” the motivation is usually to stall while other options are considered or worse yet, delay the eventual pain of giving the disappointing answer of “No.” But, for anyone making the ask, the goal is to get to “Yes” and they'll keep coming back until they get that answer.Is maybe a nice way to say no? ›
Saying Maybe Is Okay Too!
If you haven't noticed already, saying maybe isn't exactly saying no. Sometimes, you might really just need time to think over something. Maybe you really want to help out on a project because it'll benefit you too, but you're not immediately sure how it would fit into your schedule.
To know whether your crush likes you back, keep an eye on their behavior around you. Getting nervous or acting differently around you or showing deep interest in your relationships with others could be a couple of positive signs. Trying to make you happy, getting jealous, and sharing secrets are a few more.How to respond when a girl says maybe? ›
- Flirt with her.
- Chase her a little.
- Offer to reschedule.
- Ask her to keep you updated.
- Wrap up or change the subject.
- Keep your interactions positive.
- Ask what else she has going on.
- Give her a quick call.
- He leans toward you during conversation.
- He angles his body toward you in the room.
- He finds small ways to compliment you.
- He makes eye contact.
- He steals a glance at you.
- He singles you out in a group.
- He seems drawn to you in the room.
If a boy really has a crush on you, then he'll be likely to give you all of his attention. He'll turn his body toward you, make eye contact, and won't look around for his other friends or text them during your conversation (unless he uses his phone as a crutch because he's nervous).
Often, the best way to discover if you have a crush is to check in with yourself about how you feel. If you think about the person often, want to spend time with them, frequently wonder how they're doing, and are interested in knowing all of the details about this person and their life, it's likely a crush.